Silvia (travel blogger) on Emirates cable car in London

How To Live In The Moment When Travelling Solo

When travelling solo or even in good company, sometimes we feel like we brought our thoughts on holiday with us. 

I’m not sure how it works for you but I used to get in a loop of thoughts, then anxious about having these thoughts instead of enjoying my time away and then getting nervous about not living in the physical moment. 

This doesn’t happen anymore and I’m sharing with you what really helped me get out of my hand and fight my anxiety. (Please note I’m not a professional therapist, I just want to share what works for me). 

#1 Knock out your anxiety with this thought

Sadhguru in his book “Emotion and Relationships” said “I do not understand why we are told to be in the moment, because one cannot be anywhere else. Where else can you be other than in the moment?”

Don’t beat yourself up if you are invaded by thoughts, your physical body is in the present, and you are living right now even if you’re thinking. Thinking is part of our life so give yourself a break. 

#2 Come back to the physical space with this exercise

I do this exercise very often when I feel like I’m totally unaware of what I’m doing and surrounding me. This is a grounding exercise I read from “Think Like a Monk” by Jay Shetty and I promise you it will help you live in the moment when travelling solo or in good company.

  • Count 5 things you can see around you 
  • Touch 4 things with different textures/temperatures around you. They could be on you as well, such as shoes, a T-shirt, a bag… Notice the texture and feel when touching.
  • Notice 3 things you can hear around you. Are they loud or gentle? 
  • Smell 2 things. Are these smells pleasant? 
  • Taste one thing. Sometimes my lips taste like tea, lip balm or dark chocolate

Try and notice how you feel.

#3 Meditate if you can

How to live in the moment when travelling solo. Solo traveller meditating

Meditation is a way to connect with yourself and helps you focus on what really matters to you. This is one of the best ways to live in the moment when travelling solo. It doesn’t need to be long and if you are one of these people who say “Meditation is not for me because I can’t stop thinking” is a sign you really need to meditate. You won’t stop thinking by trying only once, it takes time and it won’t help you get rid of your thoughts but how to live with them by noticing them rather than drawing in them. These are some suggestions on how to learn to meditate: 

  • Headspace App: This is how I started 4 years ago! You can give it a go with the free trial before purchasing a subscription (£9.99 per month or £74.99 per year) 
  • Calm App: (£7.99 per month or £29.99 per year) 
  • Meditation centres: find the closest meditation centre to your place
  • Podcasts/Youtube: Yoga by Nature podcast and Sadhguru YouTube channel (this is my favourite meditation session)
  • Peloton app: If you already use Peloton, check out the meditation session, it’s very well done!

#4 Remember why you booked that trip in the first place. How did you want to feel, what was your goal?

How to live in the moment when travelling solo - swimming when travelling solo (Singapore)
Morning swim in Singapore

Before going on holiday, think about this. If you were living the life you wanted, what would you do? If you need an example, this is my list: 

  1. I would wake up and go for a swim. Swimming connects me to nature and gives me energy. It could be the sea or an outdoor swimming pool. 
  2. This might be controversial but I would work! I love working in tech so much, interacting with intelligent people and focusing on challenging projects gives me energy and makes me feel very accomplished. 
  3. I would walk or exercise with other people. I’m very extrovert so doing activities or sharing experiences with others makes me happy and charges me
  4. I would watch the sunset and read. The sunset gives me peace. 

When I go on a solo trip, I try to do most of these things because I know they mean a lot to me. So if you don’t know what to achieve when going on a trip, think about how you want to feel or what you would do if you were living the life you wanted. This will give you more purpose and help you live in the moment when travelling solo because you chose to be there.

Conclusion: 

I hope these 4 tips will help you in some way. These are obviously not only for when you are away but you can also practice them when you’re at home or in any situation that makes you feel disconnected from the present. Make sure you read my post on how to enjoy a solo holiday if you are still not sure about going on holiday solo.

Ciao for now, 

Silvia x

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