If you are reading this post it means that you have booked or are planning your solo trip. First of all, well done! You chose to get out of your comfort zone and get to know yourself as well as other cultures. That being said, whether you’re a well-travelled person or not, it’s likely you will experience anxiety.
The anxiety phases
When you book a solo trip you will go through a few phases which may vary from one person to another. I normally experience anxiety at night, which will then drastically reduce in the morning.
These are my mental phases as soon as I book a trip:
- Phase 1: The excitement. I’m very excited about the trip and I book the flight. I think about freedom and leaving my routine behind.
- Phase 2: The second thought. This happens mainly at night and it makes me think if I should really go somewhere else which is not my dreamy bed. Would my cat be upset for not seeing me for such a long time? Would she get along with the cat sitter?
- Phase 3: The “back to planning” phase. I remind myself why it’s important for me to go. I do more research and I note down a list of activities I would love to experience. I also write down what I want to achieve and how I want to feel. Going away and having some time for myself will make me a better person.
- Phase 4: I’m so ready! I have no doubts about the trip. The research is done, and the suitcase is almost ready. I start checking the weather of my destination, and I could totally see myself there.
If you get stuck to phase 2 and your anxiety increases exponentially, take a big breath, I’ve got you covered. Read below the top 6 thoughts that will fight your anxiety straight away:
#1: Remind yourself why you are going
There must be a reason why you booked that trip in the first place. Go back to that thought, the image of yourself you pictured in your mind. What were you trying to achieve?
#2: Everyone gets anxious before travelling
You are not losing your mind just yet. Getting anxious is human, ask your friends as well. If they are open with you they will share that actually, they had some sleepless nights or conflicting thoughts about their trip too.
#3: Uncertainty Is The Only Constant In Our Lives
I get it. You are not sure how your trip will go if travelling solo. But what about your job? Your relationships? Is there anything you’re actually 100% sure about? How much control do you have over your life? Not much I guess. Well, this trip is exactly the same as your life at home.
#4: “The worst case scenario” thought
When I’m worried about something throughout the day I always think about what’s the worst that can happen. What if I lose my passport? What’s the worst that could happen? Playing in my mind the absolute worst situation out of each worry is very helpful. It makes me realise that it is not as catastrophic or life-threatening as I thought it would be!
#5: We desire things we know. What if there is something else?
Think about what you desire the most. Have you seen these objectives before? Maybe from your family, TV or social media. Before going to Bali I didn’t know I could have peace. I also explored new ways of living which made my life more fulfilling.
#6: What if you embrace it?
What if this anxiety is the excitement? Maybe travelling solo doesn’t happen often for you and you have some sleepless nights. Maybe these are nice thoughts to have because they don’t happen every day. It’s not a recurring worry.
Feeling anxious before your trip is normal. Getting out of your comfort zone is not easy, especially after covid when we got accustomed to spending a long time at home and in our safety net. Hopefully, these 6 tips will help you reach your goal and live your life fully.
For further reading, check my blog post on 8 Obstacles for Female Solo Travellers according to recent statistics and how to overcome them!
Ciao for now,